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Basics

Mission – Our mission is to eradicate sexual taboos and dismantle the weaponization of sex. We aim to combat the use of fear, shame, and hate related to sex, which has severe consequences and impacts various aspects of society.
Vision – Our vision is to create a world where instances of domestic violence, rape, suicide, unintended pregnancy, sex-based hate and bigotry, as well as prude/slut-shaming and sex-related violence are effectively reduced.
Goals – Our goals include improving public and personal safety and health, promoting self and healthcare awareness, advocating for better laws that protect individuals, enhancing freedom and quality of life, and fostering a better understanding of sex and relationships.
Purpose – We recognize the profound connection between sex and various aspects of daily life, such as abortion and mass shootings. By addressing the taboos and misconceptions surrounding sex, we aim to prevent violent actions and promote education based on researched facts.
 

Sexess is dedicated to creating a safe and supportive environment for survivors of domestic violence and sexual abuse. Our mission is to empower survivors and prevent future abuse through education and advocacy.

Areas of Action -Advocacy, Prevention, Research, Education, Direct Victim Services
• Health and Human Services - Trauma Coaching, Safe Stays, Moving Expenses, Legal Fees, Suicide Prevention, and Unintended Pregnancy Resources
• Public Safety - Crime Prevention/Reduction, Victim Resources
• Education - Adult Sex Education topics - better sex, consent, and understanding bodies
 

Theme - Be like Betty and Ruth! Fight abuse with the power of a fun education!
Betty White was against sexism, racism, and cruelty, but also spoke in innuendo and flat-out dirty!

Dr. Ruth was very controversial when she openly talked about sex but believed proper sex education was the key to many issues!

 

Messages -
Recovery - No shame or guilt to the victim, separating you from the incident (you are not wrong, gross, devalued), empowerment and self-image, reconnecting to your body in healthy ways, rediscovering your sassy sexy self for your future love life,
you can have an awesome life so don't quit!!


Prevention - Education, communication, consent, anatomy and physiology, awareness, and calling out bad behavior!
​Sexess supports survivors of domestic violence and sexual abuse through Prevention, Recovery, and Research. We provide support and financial assistance to victims of sex crimes and domestic violence in Spokane County. Our revenue is generated by sensual training and coaching on various topics to a global audience. 

 

Some may not understand our unconventional tactics but the internalization of shame and guilt, often felt after an incident profoundly affects self-esteem, self-image, and other perceptions - including future relationships and family life. Finding acceptance and value in yourself and your sexuality is essential to living a full life!
 

Plus, accurate education brings understanding to consent, anatomy, and physiology, and teaches skills and techniques that can prevent abuse!

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As founders of Sexess, our personal experiences have shaped our mission. We have endured abuse, including childhood sexual abuse, domestic violence, and sexual harassment. These experiences motivate us to provide the support we needed. Unfortunately, we have seen how few individuals receive the assistance they need to escape danger. This strengthens our determination to make a difference. At Sexess, our commitment is to ensure that victims have access to the help and support they deserve.

Education

Is this real?

Throughout history, the study of human sexuality has been important. Today, contemporary studies aim to debunk misconceptions and societal taboos that contribute to harmful stereotypes and victim-blaming.
It's concerning that some legislators still impose taxes based on false beliefs, such as the notion that tampons cause orgasms, highlighting the need for adult sex education.
There are numerous professional organizations and research institutions dedicated to comprehending and promoting education on human sexuality. Some of these include the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, & Therapists (AASECT), the European Society of Sexual Medicine (ESSM), and the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction.

Questions for you.

What is sexual autonomy? What is the significance of sexual autonomy? What boundaries should be placed on sexual freedom? Who determines these boundaries? Are they qualified to make choices on our behalf? Should religion regulate sexual activity? Which religion would we use to decide boundaries/regulations? Should governments have a role in regulating sexual activity? What are the repercussions of stigmatizing individuals based on their sexual behavior? Can regulations or penalties curb sexual behavior? Are current consequences, such as registering predators, sufficient? What is in the best interests of our children? What is grooming? Who engages in it? How should grooming be punished? How does tradition influence the future? Is progressiveness preferable? When is it appropriate to pursue change? Who benefits from the regulation of sexual activity? Who benefits from engaging in sexual activity? What does sexual freedom encompass? What boundaries are appropriate? What is fetishizing? Who is fetishized? What are the repercussions of sex solely for reproduction? What can be done about fetishizing birth?

Education

Becoming a sexologist requires extensive study in specific programs for accreditation. While there are general access programs available, they are not used for accreditation.
Our organization has completed or plans to complete several programs:
- https://start.omgyes.com/join (completed)
- https://laylamartin.com/ (currently attending)
- https://sexpertconsultants.podia.com/certificates (one completed)
- https://www.loveuniv.com/ (completed all programs)
- https://www.somaticainstitute.com/sex-coach-certification/
- https://www.therapycertificationtraining.org/certification/sex-therapy-training/certified-clinical-sexologist
- https://americanboardofsexology.org/certifications/ (official recognition of certifications)

Get Involved

You can make a difference in the lives of survivors by getting involved with Sexess. Whether it's through volunteering, donations, or spreading awareness, your support is invaluable. 

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Reasons to Help
The reasons for helping vary as much as the individuals who want to aid others. Below, you will find a comprehensive list of the motivations behind supporting Sexess:
1. Duty: Many individuals feel a sense of responsibility to contribute to the community and help those in need.
2. Values or Morals: Some people align their actions with their principles and beliefs, recognizing the importance of supporting organizations like Sexess.
3. Agreement with the Cause: Individuals who deeply believe in the mission and goals of Sexess are motivated to contribute because they wholeheartedly support the cause.
4. Religious Views: Faith can serve as a driving force for individuals to help others, guided by their religious teachings and beliefs.
5. Personal Experiences: Those who have personally witnessed or been affected by sex crimes or domestic violence have a firsthand understanding of the significance of the work done by Sexess.
6. Emotional Satisfaction: Helping others can bring profound emotional fulfillment and happiness to individuals, as they experience the positive impact they are making.
7. Improved Reputation: In addition to personal satisfaction, supporting Sexess can enhance one's standing in the community and establish a positive reputation.
8. Approval of Impact or Programs: Individuals who recognize the effectiveness and positive influence of Sexess are compelled to contribute to its initiatives.
9. Setting an Example: By supporting Sexess, individuals can encourage others to get involved and contribute to the cause, inspiring a ripple effect of assistance.
10. Community Spirit: Supporting Sexess fosters a strong sense of community and solidarity, as individuals come together to combat sex crimes and domestic violence.
11. Passion for the Cause: Some individuals are deeply passionate about addressing the issues surrounding sex crimes and domestic violence, motivating them to support Sexess.
12. Deductions: In some cases, individuals may be motivated to contribute to Sexess for tax and financial benefits.
13. Meaningful Impact: By supporting Sexess, individuals can make a genuine and lasting difference in the lives of victims of sex crimes and domestic violence.
14. Making the World a Better Place: Supporting Sexess contributes to the collective effort to build a more informed and compassionate society, striving to create a safer environment for everyone.
15. Purpose: Many individuals seek a sense of purpose and meaning in their lives, and supporting Sexess can fulfill this need by working towards a worthy cause.
While Sexess may not be able to address everyone's concerns, we strive to provide transparency, connection, trust, and meaningful engagement to all those who choose to support our cause.

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